One review on 30 Jul 2022
Running time: 97 mins
Aspect Ratio: 2.35 Widescreen
Camera: Arri Alexa Mini
Tech Notes: Camera : Arri Alexa Mini. Stereo
Nai Nai (the Grandmother, Shuzhen Zhao) lives in China, her two sons and their families live in Japan and New York. When she is diagnosed with terminal cancer her sister, who cares for her, decides that she should not be told the diagnosis (apparently a common practice in Chinese society) but the family decide they will all make a trip to china ostensibly for the wedding of her grandson (who has a Japanese girlfriend), but in fact to say goodbye as it is 25 years since they have all been together.
The grandaughter, Billi (Awkwafina) is not comfrotable with the deciet and initially is not going, but turns up anyway.
by rogerco on Sat 30th Jul 2022 DVD proj @ home (Subtitled)
SummaryA simple story told with subtlety and richness to make a charming film
The centre of the story is the relationship between Nai Nai and Billi, which provides us with a way in to come to understand, as Billi does, some of the cultural differences between the individualistic american way and the Chinese social family. From being initially appalled at the lie that is being collectively perpetrated, Billi comes to accept and even embrace it.
The key scene is where she is with her father and uncle at their hotel in Changchun just before the wedding and they explain the difference between living in America and in China is that in America people believe their life belong to themselves, whereas in China people's lives are part of a whole, of a family, of society, and therefore it is the family's duty to carry the emotional burden of the cancer knowledge FOR Nai Nai.
The whole film is an illustration of this point, and it works really well.